How to recognize distress in your child's voice

Uncertainty

Strikes

- how do you recognize in the child's voice what is really happening and how can the voice be used as a tool to improve communication?

Since the outbreak of the coronavirus, the most certain feeling is uncertainty.

This instability affects at every possible level: physically ,emotionally, and mentally.

The challenge with the new generation that spends most of its time on social media, is to find out what is really going on in their minds and hearts beyond verbal communication.

I am attaching some fun but also diagnostic exercises so that you can get another angle on the voice and what it says and doesn't say:

1. Ask a thought/emotion-evoking question.

For example: "How do you feel about the strike?"

Look for the end of the sentence in the answer. Usually, if the tone rises, it can indicate stress, hidden difficulty, fear, etc.

2. What do we do with this finding?

It is critical to facilitate the feelings and give them a voice.

Why? It's easier to give them space and dismantle them than to ignore them (because they don't go away and sometimes become a bothersome thought).

3. Creating a sense of stability, choice, and a healthy mindset can go a long way.

After you have identified the leading emotions, ask the child to number them in strength (1 weakest, 10 strongest).

"Lighten" each emotion and give it a corresponding positive word of reinforcement.

For example: anger - energy Frustration-choice.

Write the word pairs, hang them on the fridge, and every morning and evening, ask your child to focus on the positive words. What does it do to the physical, emotional and mental body?

Studies show that thought and voice not only create reality but also:

*Strengthen the immune system * Makes us better decision makers * Creates resilience * Develop interpersonal relationships * Teaches to deal with conflicts